Meet Jordan Quinn, the Owner and Editor at Korkscrewed and the Founder of Social Q Relations. We were so excited to get this modern dating guru's take on consent in the dating world - check out our mini interview below. You can follow Jordan and Social Q Relations on Instagram, and stay tuned for the release of her Korkscrewed book - coming in November!
WHAT ARE YOUR TIPS FOR MEN SEEKING CONSENT ONCE THE WINE HAS BEEN UNCORKED?
Whenever alcohol is consumed, everyone should use a higher degree of caution. I feel this especially applies for first dates, and in the early stages of getting to know someone.
Gentlemen- if you know you are going into a situation where alcohol is being consumed, set drink limits for yourself and be mindful of how many your partner has had. Never push another round on someone that seems hesitant or like they're nearing their limitations.
If you want the night to continue, maybe suggest food for the table!
WHAT ARE YOUR TIPS FOR KEEPING CONSENT SEXY?
Ladies- learn how to put a condom on. It is a sexy and subtle way to keep it safe, and show that both partners are giving consent.
DO YOU BELIEVE CONSENT IS A BLACK AND WHITE ISSUE?
I always thought it was. But I've realized that so often it is implicit. It's a "black and white" way of viewing consent that has failed so many women and discounted too many experiences. So no. I think consent has its shades of grey.
DID YOU LEARN ABOUT CONSENT IN SCHOOL?
Nope! I went to a Catholic school. And if one thing was made black and white, it was that you just don't have sex. We didn't talk about consent or sex education, likely because those topics promoted the opposite of the church/school's teachings/agenda. Rather than encouraging a healthy and safe sex dialogue, the approach was more sex prevention than anything. Ultimately this left me feeling relatively ill prepared for my first year at Western University. Sex with Sue's session O-Week was definitely an eye opener! I will never forget watching that 80 year old woman put a condom on a banana...
KORKSCREWED, CONSENT AND HOOKUP CULTURE. HOW DOES IT ALL FIT?
My book Korkscrewed is primarily penned in self-deprecating humour, and shows the contrast between my conservative upbringing and today's hookup culture. Though I've written over 18 alcohol induced chapters on the topics of love, relationships and modern dating, not once do I write of safety or consent. I am fortunate enough to not have a negative experience to share but sadly too many women that are close to me do. Their experiences have heavily influenced my approach to app dating especially-- I always discuss my preference for monogamy and relationships before meeting up. I drop (rather unsubtle) hints that I'm not interested in hooking up straight off the bat, and probably filter out a lot of guys who aren't aligned.
WHY IS RAISING AWARENESS FOR CONSENT CULTURE IMPORTANT FOR YOU?
Again, I don't have a personal narrative to share, but so many strong women in my life do. And that's why it is important to me. Each case is terrifyingly unique, which really demonstrates that no one is immune from these non-consensual experiences.
Their stories are theirs to tell and not mine to share, but as an author who writes about love, sex, dating and relationships I feel I have a platform (small is it may be!) to remind my readers about safety and consent... especially in the modern dating world!